Okay I'm really so incredibly sorry I haven't been updatig the blog. I've just been ridiculously busy over the past few days. Okay everyone already posted their resolutions/reflections/in the case of Shar&KP, the Top5 Men of 2009&The Top5 Hottest Guys Ever.
Mine's gonna be pretty long, so brace yourselves. Here it goes!
Let's just start of with the fact that this year, I have learned so many things. Not academically (of course).
1) I have learned not to let sterotypes get to me
- Basically I did not think through my acceptance to a JC. I was blinded by the fact that I can actually keep up with the family tradition (my dad's side) that I didn't even consider the fact that the JC system may have been too stressful for me. I could tell that my mum and dad were proud that I was going into a JC. But at the same time, they gave me the chance to switch at the beginning of the year- but I didn't because I just wanted to succeed and have a chance to go through the 'a' level experience like my cousins have. I was given an option to leave, and I didn't take it. And I regret that.
~ In 2010, I must not let myself do something just because people want me to. I have to follow my heart, and think through my options before the decision is actually made. One wrong decision made could affect my life in so many negative ways, like the decision to stay in JC.
2) I have learned not to fall in love with one of my good friends
- I am a jealous person. Always have been, always will be. And especially when I hang out with a group of friends, envy surfaces when other friends communicate with the special one. No matter how hard I tried to supress these feelings of envy for the sake of friendships with other friends, it was unsuccessful. I let love blind me.
~ In 2010, I must not fall in love with one of my good friends. Object if you will- I really think that this is the best thing for me to do to curb the problem from recurring again.
3) I have learned not to run away from my problems
- Throughout the entire year, i have ran away from school. I couldn't cope with the school work; everything was just too difficult for me. So I figured the best thing to do would be to call in sick and not turn up for school at all. As a result of this, my studies deteriorated even more, and I started to get 'phobias' for certain subjects. I didn't understand even the basics of these few subjects, and my other smarter schoolmates were already going into the intermediate parts of the syllabus. I didn't do my tutorials, so this put me in even more shit. And of course, I didn't ask for help from tutors.
~ In 2010, (hopefully if I pick the right choice in poly- something I'm passionate and interested about), I must put in effort in all that I do- difficult or not. I cannot afford to let my parents, and more importantly, myself, down. It's time to step up. No more skipping lessons, I must ASK when unsure.
4) I have learned not to let failed friendships get the better of me
- I've always had friendship problems, since primary school. I guess I'm a difficult person to get along with. But then this year, I made one of the biggest decision of my life (leaving MJC) , and a failed friendship was one of the reasons for my leaving. Stupid, yes. But I just get affected by friendships, to the point where I find myself dejected and unwanted- eventually leading to my withdrawal from the school. Of course there were other more major reasons I wanted to leave, but sometimes, even the more minute reason counts sometimes.
~In 2010, I will try not to be a bitch. I have to be able to get along well with other people no matter what. I know for a fact that there would be a lot of project work in poly, so I have to be able to get along with everyone, if not, my studies would be affected..I wouldnt turn up for school..you know the whole thing.
5) I have learned that I should never doubt a best friend
- In 2009, I went through some shit with a friend. I felt hurt that things had changed so much, and that we weren't as close as we once were. I blamed my other friends for doing this to our friendship. The pain I felt during the phase was too overwhelming and excruciating. It was even worse than those times when I got rejected/ going through unrequited love. Truth is, I was making a mountain out of a molehill. I can't exactly cling on to friends forever. In a different environment, things would be different.
~ In 2010, I must learn to accept change. Things may be different, and I may not spend as much time as I did with this friend before, but I have to bear in mind, that this doesnt change the friendship one bit. As mentioned before in my blog, another friend of mine said that 'Distance makes the heart fonder'. So if anything, my relationship with my best friend may grow even stronger. And I should not, at one bit, doubt the friend.
6) I have learned that every cloud has a silver lining
- I have always been a negative person. Somehow, I don't see that good things until I'm done with eveything. Then I'll feel remorseful because I'd realise that I didn't appreciate the goodness until it was gone. And that is really a painful feeling. It feels like as if you missed out on something great that happened, just because you were blinding by other things that you more more affected by (see point 1, 4). In true fact, I was blessed with a coulple of good friends in JC, like Sharifah, Khair, KP, Aamilah, Faith, Afiqah.. These are the friends (plus Razeef) that I want to keep for life. I want to be in poly and always remember these friends, because they were there for me when I needed help the most.
~ In 2010, I must be an optimist. I must always have a positive outlook on life. I may face adversities, but the strongest cure to overcome this is positivity. Only then, would I be able to appreciate all that good things that I have been blessed with. I have to do things that would make me happy (Project Happy), think of happy thoughts, and hence, be a happy person in general. Also, I must appreciate everything that God has blessed me with, because if it were not for Him, I would not be where I am today.
Okay, now on to happier things!
These are the events in 2009 I would never forget. Not even in a million years :)
Not in chronological order,






























...and soo many other times where pictures were not snapped.
Point is, 2009 was both horrible and great. Largely horrible. But nonetheless, I'm thankful for all the outings, travelling, play-watching, birthday parties.. If it were not for these, I probably would have died.
So here's to a new year, filled with new possibilities just waiting to be explored. Personally I can't wait too start schooling in a polytechnic- I'm ready to embrace change. However, at the same time I'll never forget 2009. Horrible as it seemed, the experiences I went through thought me valuable life-long lessons.
Off to text,
Hanna B.